I promised synthesis… so let’s get down to business. It is the age of information, and we are fully inundated! Turning information overload into practical power tools demands full participation.
The two most important ingredients of this participation are honesty and responsibility. We’ve actually already begun, in the first two blogs, approaching both of these by
- 1) Telling the truth about the imminently hot blooded nature of human sexuality and its central role in our lives, and
- 2) Looking directly at ourselves to understand (and ultimately rectify) society’s sexual ills.
Really understanding sex is a deeply personal affair that involves a deeply personal revolution. I call it revolutionary because it is transforming the foundation of our social paradigm.
The social paradigm says honesty around sex is actually irresponsible– that it corrupts the innocence of children and threatens the security of adults. In fact, the opposite is true. Our “protective” lies destroy youthful innocence by cloaking sex in shame, and create brittle relational structures that foster cripplingly insecure adults. Look around and see how true this is!
Then begin the revolution by taking one thing (from the list in the last blog, perhaps) about sex that makes you uncomfortable and pushing against it’s boundary by being more open and vocal about it and taking action. See what happens. Objectively observe. How does your honesty irritate and/or inspire others, and what does your experience tell you about yourself and the world in which you live?
The other night I had confirmation of the constriction of people’s sexuality. I participated in a lecture/Q&A on sexuality at the university near where I live. Twenty-nine people were in the room before the lecture started. After the speaker and his topic were announced, a stream of youthful bodies flowed out the door, so that when the lecture began there were only ten people left in the room.
Since sex hardly counts as a drab, irrelevant topic, I can only assume that they exited because of the discomfort they felt around this topic. These 18- to 22-year-olds are the epitome of hot bloodedness, so their hasty departure clearly identifies the societal problem at hand as well as the need for a forum like this website.